According to those with experience in detection and surveillance, these are the top ten ways to tell if a spouse or significant other is cheating:
1. Exhibition of a changing attitude toward your relationship: they are more argumentative, critical, or distant; they are less affectionate and profess a need for "more space."
2. Unexplained absences: they stay later at work, leave the office for lunch more often, spend more time "with friends" or pursuing a new hobby during evenings and weekends or they are frequently off running lengthy "errands."
3. Increase in personal expenses: they seem to go through pocket money at faster rates and have a jump in credit card expenses.
4. Change in patterns of telephone use: they spend more time on the phone and seem anxious to be the one to answer the phone when it rings; there are mysterious in-coming calls, hang-ups, and wrong numbers, or they suddenly need a new cell phone or pager.
5. They pay greater attention than usual to their physical appearance; they begin a new diet or exercise program; they purchase new clothing and fragrance or change hairstyles and begin getting manicures/pedicures.
6. They show a new interest in mail delivery; they want to be the first to get to the mail; they hide phone bills or credit card statements; they receive mysterious letters (usually not in postcard form).
7. There are articles of unknown origin left in the home or vehicle; these could be slips of paper with names/phone numbers, matchbooks, and/or different brands of cigarettes or gum
8. Strange marks upon body (scratches, bites, skin irritations) or stains on clothing (lipstick, makeup stains).
9. Unexplained odors; they come home smelling of fragrance or tobacco that is not their own.
10. Decreased interest in sex or changes in sex drive; more aggressive and less tender; desire to try new techniques or positions.
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David, a couple of things:
ReplyDelete1. George Pataki was governor of New York from 1/1/1995 - 12/31/2006, not several decades ago as stated in blog entry of 2/09.
2. The quote attributed to Herbert Spencer in blog entry of 5/6/2009, although published in the first edition of the book "Alcoholics Anonymous" and reprinted in over twenty million copies since, is more correctly attributed as a derivation of the words of 18th century British theologian William Paley. See "The Survival of a Fitting Quotation" by Michael StGeorge, Copyright 2005, at http://www.geocities.com/fitquotation/#_Toc98394733.
I was personally very disappointed to learn about the misattribution of the quote in the AA book, because I have shared it with many, many others over the years since I first read it in the late 1970s.
Fact checking is important stuff.